6 Reminders for Parents During Their Player's College Recruiting Process
Parents typically like to be involved in the recruiting process because, well, they’re parents. I asked my mom a few of the things she tried to do or said she should have done better while I was getting recruited.
These are a few of the points she mentioned:
1. Stay open-minded
There are a lot of factors that go into making the decision of what school to play for, and most of them are good options.
Try not to change your child’s mind or affect their decision because you want them to go to a certain school. They’re going to be playing and living there for the next four years, you aren’t.
2. Be realistic
Think about what is affordable for the family, what level your player will actually be able to play and compete at and then discuss with your child.
Have an open line of honest communication available for them as they are trying to navigate this tricky process.
3. Don’t do the work for them
Don’t contact coaches for your child; if this is what they want to do, they need to do it for themselves. Guide them of course, but let them be their own advocate.
It was beneficial for me, as a player, going into college already knowing how to communicate with my coaches.
4. Encourage and listen to your child
What goals have they set for themselves? Is this something they really want? Be there for them every step of the way in case they need you.
Make sure this is more what they want for themselves versus what you want as their parent. Continue being their biggest fans, be honest with them about your concerns, but don’t try to sway them into making a certain decision.
5. Talk to other parents who have navigated the route before
Just as it’s helpful for players who are being recruited to talk with other players who have been recruited in the past, it’s beneficial for parents to talk with other parents who have been there.
They know the twists and turns into the world of collegiate athletics and they are usually more than willing to talk about their children’s collegiate careers. Ask them what tips or suggestions they have concerning how to go about the process.
6. Be selfless
This isn’t about you or where you want them to go, the most important thing to remember is that the decision should ultimately be up to your child.
You can guide them as much as you want, but they have to make this decision for themselves.